How often do we think we know what we want, but once we get it we are still left feeling like something is missing? Many times the thing we think we desire is just what we see on the surface and we have to dig a little deeper to find the true desire that underlies it.
For example, if I thought what I really wanted was a new house, I may come to find out that what I truly desired was a place where I felt at home. Home is that place where you feel totally comfortable and safe. It is the place where you are accepted and belong.
Once you are able to name your desire, you may discover that it is related to a past wound. Often times the same desire keeps resurfacing because we have not addressed the wound that is at the heart of it.
I have noticed that I may have issues in different areas in my life that seem unconnected until I examine them. Upon reflection, I begin to notice that in each case what I was really longing for was what was absent. At times that has been a lack of balance, harmony, or feeling seen and heard.
Try This Journaling Exercise
First, take a moment to focus on your breathing, and place your hand on your heart with the intention to connect to your deepest knowing. Once you feel centered and grounded in this moment, take out your journal and pencil. Finish the sentences below to see if you can uncover the root of your deepest desire:
- The one thing that I wish there was more of in my life is ________.
- To make my life vision complete, I need ____________. This would make me feel __________.
- The thing that brings me the most contentment is ____________.
- Something that nobody knows about me is _____________.
- I wish ______________.
- If I did not have any fear, I would ___________.
- Deep down what I really desire is ___________.
For example, it may go something like this:
The one thing that I wish there was more of in my life is money.
To make my life vision complete, I need a successful business. This would make me feel secure.
The thing that brings me the most contentment is connecting with others.
Something that nobody knows about me is that I often feel like I don’t belong or that I have nothing to offer.
I wish I had more freedom to pursue the passions that I enjoy and to live in the flow without worry about my financial situation. I would fully be living in the present moment, connecting with world around me and the people in my community, responding moment to moment.
If I did not have any fear, I would take the leap in quitting my job and trusting that I would have what I need when I needed it. Deep down what I really desire is to live in the flow, present to each moment, without worry about finances or the future. I desire to feel secure, connected, and free.
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About the Author: Julie Glaser is a healer who creates sacred spaces for people to share, release, and grow. She’s in the habit of being in awe and wonder and writes to share her own experiences and learnings with other inquisitive souls in the process of transforming.